Deconforming

Who even am I?

by Adrien Converse I started this site almost two years ago. So much has changed since then. I’m not even going to bother mentioning what. What matters is, “here” is a different place than it was two years ago. And I am a different person. Back when I was writing before, I did a lot of... read more

Are new gender labels just silly fads?

by Adrien Converse There are loads of labels for gender identity, and more keep emerging. Each label provides a way of grouping people by some sort of shared attribute. Some people are really into labels, and how they provide conceptual "bins" to sort ideas into. Others aren't fans of... read more

Why are we confusing kids with gender labels?

by Adrien Converse A lot of people tell me that it’s confusing for kids to learn about different labels for gender outside of just “boy” and “girl.” I agree that gender labels are confusing kids, but not in the way that many adults think. When I was born, I was given a label that... read more

What does “deadname” mean?

by Adrien Converse Deadname is a word used in the transgender community to reference the given name that a trans person has rejected, because it misrepresented their gender. This is in contrast to a person's chosen name, which is the name they selected to more accurately reflect who... read more

Why do people see me as either a man or a woman?

by Adrien Converse As an agender person, I don’t know what having gender feels like. The only real experience I have with gender is that almost everyone I've met takes for granted that all people are one of two genders, including me. This has improved a lot in the last year or so since... read more « Older Entries Latest Articles