Vita By Design

Who is this for?

While I’m sure anyone could read this post, mainly I’m writing from my own perspective as a 30-something, white, middle-class, Christian, college-educated, working mother. I’m writing to my friends, those I went to high school and college with, those who look like me and we generally have similar values.

What is marriage all about anyway?

Recently I’ve had to really think through what marriage is really made up of. Between the point of signing a paper together and the big house, 3 kids and a white picket fence ….

What does it take to lose privileges?

Well, in short, it requires everything. And that’s a pretty steep cost. Pretty much too radical. In order to be willing to lose privileges for the sake of others, only one thing would ever motivate someone to make that move.

Do I have a right to call people or places derogatory names?

Now let’s be completely honest here. I’ve had some experiences and seen some places where the reality of it made me want to feverishly swear off everybody involved. When I dived off the deep end and starting learning about the reality of human trafficking, and especially sex trafficking, I was exposed to some deep, dark things. The amount of violence and dehumanization is vile.

So how do people get scared of places like Chicago? like Africa?

At some point information was passed on. And it was communicated in a way that best benefited the sender of the information. Because those in power get to tell the stories they way they want to. If money and ratings are the top motivator, then the human instinct to tap into is obvious: Fear. It pays. And it pays well.